I was there. I used to entertain my first child all the time. I am not exaggerating. It was ALL the time. It was driving me crazy and I saw that it wasn’t making my daughter any happier either. And then we discovered this approach and I started changing the system in our house. It was very hard for both of us. It was hard for her to get used to not being able to play with phones and my iPad anymore, or not to be entertained with TV whenever I needed a quiet moment to accomplish something without her. Now, with my son it came naturally. He doesn’t like most toys we still have, and never cared about TV until very recently (and they are only allowed to watch it for a short while in the morning while I am getting their breakfast ready). He is very happy to play with pots and wooden spoons, items of clothing, sticks and rocks, etc. My daughter learned too, but sometimes she still expects to be entertained. We are working on it. Continue reading
Tickling is such a touchy subject, I know some will disagree but hopefully this will help some of you to look at it from a different angle. All I know is that I personally hate tickling, I have bad memories about it from my childhood, I can’t stand anyone even hinting at trying to tickle me. Do I want my kids to have the same memories in the future? Definitely not, so we don’t abuse tickling in our house and only do it for a short while if kids ask for it. There are other wonderful alternatives to family bonding like this great article from HandinHand Parenting explains. Continue reading
Circumcision. Never gave it a second thought and even considered it for my son briefly only because it was a norm. But, luckily for me, my midwife said it wasn’t necessary at all. That was enough to make up my mind. And later, when I was exposed to the horror of this cultural tradition here in the US, I got a shock of my life.
If you have no idea what I am talking about, consider researching further.
This article http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201109/myths-about-circumcision-you-likely-believe is a good place to start. Five parts total and every one of them provides new information and facts. Well worth your time.
“Part 1 – Circumcision Surgery Myths
Myth 1: They just cut off a flap of skin.
Reality check: Not true. The foreskin is half of the penis’s skin, not just a flap. In an adult man, the foreskin is 15 square inches of skin. In babies and children, the foreskin is adhered to the head of the penis with the same type of tissue that adheres fingernails to their nail beds. Removing it requires shoving a blunt probe between the foreskin and the head of the penis and then cutting down and around the whole penis. Check out these photos: http://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html
Myth 2: It doesn’t hurt the baby.
Reality check: Wrong. In 1997, doctors in Canada did a study to see what type of anesthesia was most effective in relieving the pain of circumcision. As with any study, they needed a control group that received no anesthesia. The doctors quickly realized that the babies who were not anesthetized were in so much pain that it would be unethical to continue with the study. Even the best commonly available method of pain relief studied, the dorsal penile nerve block, did not block all the babies’ pain. Some of the babies in the study were in such pain that they began choking and one even had a seizure (Lander 1997).
Myth 6: It doesn’t cause the baby long-term harm.
More ideas on respectful parenting from day one. This article is very educational (giving key principles in detail) and hard to accept first only because we are too set in our ways. But it makes total sense and I hope some of you will learn something new and will try to create better environments for your babies to thrive in.
Please consider reading the whole article http://www.parentingworx.co.nz/fantastic-reading/emmi-piklers-8-guiding-principles.
“Emmi Pikler set an example that the world is just beginning to wake up to. She knew that in order for babies to develop perfectly in the way that nature had intended, certain things must be heeded.
These included: Continue reading
This is NOT a must for every family. Some choose different foods from these offered groups and in a different order. I only wanted to share as an alternative to the commonly suggested commercially-bought cereals. Please consider your family’s diet and preferred foods that you, yourself, are more used to. Chances are your baby will agree with you more.
This is how I chose to introduce first foods with my second child after getting burned on rice cereal with my first. And we both couldn’t be happier.
Some good Information found in this article:
“Baby Led Weaning First Foods – Fruits
Banana – this is best served in large chunks for baby to gnaw, as they will be easier for him to hold.
Pear- this can be served raw (if soft, ripe and juicy) or lightly steamed if the texture doesn’t seem ‘gummable’.
Made this mistake with my first because I thought my pediatrician knew better than me, and didn’t do any research. I know better with my second now and I notice a world of difference between my children’s eating habits and appetite in general.
Have a look at this article by Dr. Joseph Mercola:
“Almost every childcare book offers the same advice about a baby’s first solid meal — start them first on rice cereal mixed with breast milk or formula. This has been received wisdom for 60 years.
But this is because in the 1950’s, baby food companies launched an advertising blitz trumpeting the benefits of white rice cereal.
But there is no scientific basis for this recommendation. None at all. And now, concerned about increasing childhood obesity, some pediatricians want to change how babies eat.
This article is not about this car seat story as its main theme. It is about this mother thanking a stranger who helped her get through that situation. But the car seat story was all I could focus on. I hope it helps some people realize that even if it clicks, it doesn’t mean it is meant to be there. No car seats on top of shopping carts, period!
“You don’t expect a life altering moment to happen at the grocery store.
What you don’t expect, when you visit the grocery store on a rainy Saturday afternoon in June, is that something might happen in the parking lot, something that will seize your heart and shatter your spirit and leave you sobbing and clinging and waiting for the ambulance to arrive. You never expect life altering moments to arrive when they do, and when they happen you are woefully unprepared, shocked to discover this is happening to you.
My Jeep was only a few steps away when the cart hit the yellow speed bump, and you may be able to relay the next moments better than I.
I remember this, and it’s all in slow motion: The car seat sliding from the cart, sickeningly. I remember a woman’s bloodcurdling scream, the green dots of the car seat fabric spinning, about to hit the pavement. I remember my legs, not fast enough, my lunge to retrieve him, weak and trapped in slow motion and I remember a tormented howl that let loose from my throat and hurt my ears.
That is my baby in that car seat, upside down on the pavement. That is my baby, my baby, my baby.
I couldn’t do anything after that. My legs were yogurt and I could think of nothing but black and my baby’s head, suddenly underneath my chin, warm and tear soaked and I was shaking so hard my teeth knocked into each other.”