Babies and respectful communication

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More ideas on respectful parenting from day one. This article is very educational (giving key principles in detail) and hard to accept first only because we are too set in our ways. But it makes total sense and I hope some of you will learn something new and will try to create better environments for your babies to thrive in.

Please consider reading the whole article http://www.parentingworx.co.nz/fantastic-reading/emmi-piklers-8-guiding-principles.

“Emmi Pikler set an example that the world is just beginning to wake up to. She knew that in order for babies to develop perfectly in the way that nature had intended, certain things must be heeded.

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Best First Foods for Baby

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This is NOT a must for every family. Some choose different foods from these offered groups and in a different order. I only wanted to share as an alternative to the commonly suggested commercially-bought cereals. Please consider your family’s diet and preferred foods that you, yourself, are more used to. Chances are your baby will agree with you more.

This is how I chose to introduce first foods with my second child after getting burned on rice cereal with my first. And we both couldn’t be happier.

Some good Information found in this article:

“Baby Led Weaning First Foods – Fruits

Banana – this is best served in large chunks for baby to gnaw, as they will be easier for him to hold.

Pear- this can be served raw (if soft, ripe and juicy) or lightly steamed if the texture doesn’t seem ‘gummable’.

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Reconsidering infant cereals

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Made this mistake with my first because I thought my pediatrician knew better than me, and didn’t do any research. I know better with my second now and I notice a world of difference between my children’s eating habits and appetite in general.

Have a look at this article by Dr. Joseph Mercola:

“Almost every childcare book offers the same advice about a baby’s first solid meal — start them first on rice cereal mixed with breast milk or formula. This has been received wisdom for 60 years.
But this is because in the 1950’s, baby food companies launched an advertising blitz trumpeting the benefits of white rice cereal.
But there is no scientific basis for this recommendation. None at all. And now, concerned about increasing childhood obesity, some pediatricians want to change how babies eat.

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No car seats in shopping carts

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This article is not about this car seat story as its main theme. It is about this mother thanking a stranger who helped her get through that situation. But the car seat story was all I could focus on. I hope it helps some people realize that even if it clicks, it doesn’t mean it is meant to be there. No car seats on top of shopping carts, period!

“You don’t expect a life altering moment to happen at the grocery store.
What you don’t expect, when you visit the grocery store on a rainy Saturday afternoon in June, is that something might happen in the parking lot, something that will seize your heart and shatter your spirit and leave you sobbing and clinging and waiting for the ambulance to arrive. You never expect life altering moments to arrive when they do, and when they happen you are woefully unprepared, shocked to discover this is happening to you.

My Jeep was only a few steps away when the cart hit the yellow speed bump, and you may be able to relay the next moments better than I.
I remember this, and it’s all in slow motion: The car seat sliding from the cart, sickeningly. I remember a woman’s bloodcurdling scream, the green dots of the car seat fabric spinning, about to hit the pavement. I remember my legs, not fast enough, my lunge to retrieve him, weak and trapped in slow motion and I remember a tormented howl that let loose from my throat and hurt my ears.

That is my baby in that car seat, upside down on the pavement. That is my baby, my baby, my baby.

I couldn’t do anything after that. My legs were yogurt and I could think of nothing but black and my baby’s head, suddenly underneath my chin, warm and tear soaked and I was shaking so hard my teeth knocked into each other.”

Extended Rear-Facing

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“In a new policy statement published in the April 2011 issue of Pediatrics, the American Academy of Pediatrics now advises parents to keep toddlers in rear-facing car seats until age 2, or until they exceed the height or weight limit for the car seat, which can be found on the back of the seat.

The new policy clarifies the AAP’s recommendation, making age 2 the new guideline — a real game-changer for parents of toddlers.
A 2007 study in the journal Injury Prevention found that children under age 2 are 75 percent less likely to die or to be severely injured in a crash if they are rear-facing. Another study found riding rear-facing to be five times safer than forward-facing.”

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Massage-it-out

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You know I do not support the Cry-it-out (CIO) method, and this time I thought instead of criticizing I’d share what works for us. It worked with my first, and it works with my second. It is worth trying and seeing if my Massage-it-out (MIO) method might work for you too. Because it beats CIO in my house.

When my baby seems unable to fall asleep, or unwilling to even try, like it sometimes happens and everything else failed (nursing, singing, rocking, etc.), I start massaging him. I don’t mean a full-blown session that you are probably not even qualified for, just like I am not. I just tell him to lie down for a massage. My son already learned what it is by now and he doesn’t mind trying through his tears and sobs. First I apply more pressure while stroking him all over, because when he is upset I noticed that firmer touches seem to help him relax faster. I do that for a while until I notice he is relaxed and stopped sobbing. Then I start touching him softer and slower, and then even gentler and slower. But it works like a charm now that my son is used to it and knows what to expect. I do it until he is fully asleep, or until he is relaxed enough to let me just sit next to him while he is falling asleep on his own.

This is my personal approach and it worked and works with my children.

The Case Against Cry-It-Out

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Nothing good happens in life without adequate attention, dedication and love. It can be applied to your career, to your friends, to your pets, and the list can go on and on. But most importantly, nothing good happens when you start withdrawing your love and attention from your family, especially your babies. Listen to your instincts more, love them, hold them, don’t listen to those telling you otherwise. Your babies count on you!
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Don’t help them get those toys

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This is something that I learned from Janet Lansbury – Elevating Childcare™ with my second, and never knew with my first child. I wish I could turn back time because I have a feeling I am still paying for it. My daughter expects to be helped and entertained a lot, and now I know why. My son is the opposite, he can spend a lot of time alone just doing his own things, and being happy with the little entertainment (in my understanding) that he gets. Anyways, this makes sense to me and I thought I’d share.

Read this thought-provoking article here:

“When babies are playing, it’s next to impossible for us to know what they’re really up to unless they show us by “doing it”. For example, observing this 6 ½ month baby (who was facing away from his mom and towards me), I could see that he was not looking at the toy she was about to give him. He was looking across the room at something else. I’m not sure what he was focused on, but that hardly matters.
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Calling For Greater Transparency From Infant Formula Corporations

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Sometimes I enjoy the work of a page or an organization, and decide to make them a fence. And sometimes pages, new to me, approach me and I look at their work closer. I have learned of quite a few interesting groups this way.
This time it is Calling for Greater Transparency from Infant Formula Corporations that has a very good message and goal that I agree with.

In their own words:

“Trying to get the Director-General of the World Health Organization to change the WHO International Code of Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes to include a clause that specifies infant formula companies have to print health warnings on their labels.

The aim of this page is to gain support for a change in the WHO International Code of Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes. That is:
-They print the health risks of using their products on their tins/cartons

This page is also against practices that are not in a child’s best interests such as: infant circumcision, crying it out, spanking, etc.”