Teach your own

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If I have to pick one thing that I learned from all the research I have been doing lately on children and education, I would have to say that educating your own kids should always remain your top priority. It doesn’t mean everyone should homeschool. Let’s face it, not everyone wants to, not everyone can afford to, and not everyone may believe it is the best choice for their family. But one thing we all should have in common is never relaxing about our children’s education even if they go to school. Schools can not teach kids everything they might be interested in, or everything that they may need to know based on your own family’s experience and values. That is why it is extremely important to be deeply involved in your child’s daily progress in learning about life and everything that comes with it.

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Touch and Learn

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You must have seen these adults who keep pulling their kids away from things, raising their voices telling them not to touch anything, doing the whole “1-2-3-4-5” routine and then dragging screaming kids away. Hey, you might have been one of these adults on some occasions. Guess what? You can relax and start using a different approach.

First of all, preventing kids from touching new and interesting objects doesn’t really teach them anything other than the fact that educational hands-on experience is not approved by parents. Ok, I know some things are valuable and may break. Want an easy solution? At home, put those things away until your kids are old enough to handle them with care. Your can’t really have happy kids and valuable objects in the same house. Continue reading

Let kids learn on their terms

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This idea stirs so many emotions and thoughts, some dating back to my own learning experiences from when I was a child myself. I am blown away with how much this makes sense.

My daughter is approaching her 5th birthday in 3 months, and I had a serious decision to make about her future education. Big Daddy from Free Your Kids suggested I should look into works of John Holt. The name sounded familiar, I definitely saw his quotes floating around, but thought he was just another peaceful parent. Turns out he studied the way children learn, and wrote about it, too. I am learning so much, and agreeing with just as much, as well.

I knew in my heart that I shouldn’t force my kids to learn to count and learn their ABCs when they were too little to even understand what they were learning and why. I heard parents around boasting about how their 3 y/o could write her name already, or count to 100. Ok, I don’t doubt some kids are capable of this, but the majority still just memorizes what adults expect them to know by a certain age, and expects to be praised when they deliver. Because, well, it is just something society expects kids to know by the time they are 3 or 4. And if they don’t, then you are a lazy parent. I was fine with being a lazy parent, I tried teaching my daughter some letters and numbers, but I wasn’t trying too hard since she wasn’t interested too much. And we left it at that. I knew I was supposed to start doing this whole ABC thing, but somehow we kept postponing and spending more time doing other things she enjoyed more.

Until one day when I found some papers around her room with letters written all over them. I thought someone wrote them for her, either my husband or my stepdaughter. And when I asked her about it, she shocked me by saying that SHE wrote them herself. I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t get how a 4 y/o child who is spending most of her time with me, doesn’t go to preschool, etc. would learn to write without anyone showing her. After all, isn’t this how you are supposed to learn? Turns out she did teach herself to write some letters by being exposed to them in various ways in her daily activities. I started paying more attention to that, got her some fun activity books to play with, but I don’t interfere much, because she just doesn’t seem interested when I try to teach her, and gets easily bored. I guess I am a lazy parent, but I choose to let my child be guided by her own curiosity, and learn on her own terms. I figured this way means she is actually learning those things, and not just trying to please me by memorizing them like a machine.

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