Time for another revised meme. This time something that has been around for a while, and is normally shared by well-meaning parents who truly believe that in order to be a good parent you need to be mean to your kids, and have them acknowledge their hate for you at least once in their lifetime, according to this meme anyway. Otherwise you failed them.
I have a problem with this approach to parenting. In fact, I have a HUGE problem with it. Times changed and we have lots of scientific proof stating that being a negative parent does more harm to children than good. Yes, our parents probably believed the things we now know are not necessarily true, but it doesn’t mean we have to keep believing them.
We know now that kids learn more from loving and gentle parents who set firm limits without applying physical force or mental pressure. Kids have better relationship with parents who trust in them, who teach by their own positive example, who love and respect them unconditionally and make it known on a daily basis.
And things like hunting down like a bloodhound (really?) and stalking? I don’t think it belongs in the modern world of loving, intelligent and well-informed parents who want to create a better future for their kids. It definitely shouldn’t belong in the world of our children who deserve better, much better than that.