Hello, I am “Heart”

My Positive Parenting Surprise of the day:

We were goofing around before bed with my kids, and decided to give each other funny names based on the way we looked. My son ended up being a “Bun”, my daughter a “Sausage”, their Dad a “Pickle”, which made me laugh like crazy. And when it was my turn to get a funny name, my 4 y/o daughter called me “Heart”. And I didn’t know if I should laugh or cry. It was very out-of-the-blue and beautiful at the same time. All I could do was hug her in return.

As usual, peaceful/positive parenting brings such unexpected and wonderful results, and when you least expect them, as well. No regrets here for choosing this way of parenting. Yes, it is hard at times, but then you get called a “Heart”, and you just melt. 🙂

Explaining things works!

My positive parenting moment of the day:

My 2 y/o loves throwing things on the floor. A lot. Sometimes I get tired and don’t find it cute anymore. Yes, it might be tempting to yell and punish for doing something like this. Or…

Today he threw his Dad’s towel on the floor in the bathroom. Asked him to pick it up and hang it back. He laughed at me. Took a deep breath and explained how the towel is clean, and the floor is not, and now when Daddy washes his face and then tries to wipe it, his face will be all dirty again. That’s ALL I said.
My son didn’t even need to think about it, he immediately picked up the towel and hung it back.

That’s it. I am still amazed at how effective this positive parenting thing is. Everyone should try it. The sooner, the better.

Quote (Jane Nelson)

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“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?” – Jane Nelson

Honestly, have nothing to add to further explain my agreement with this point of view. Pretty self-explanatory. Lead by example, be gentle, don’t give in to temptations to yell, insult, punish, and degrade your kids. They are learning about life from YOU. Teach them the right things. Teach love and respect.
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Don’t yell, talk instead.

Lesson Of The Day:

Just remembered that I wanted to share one experience with my 2.5 y/o son the other day. Evenings are not easy for me, and that is usually when I tend to be tempted to lose my cool. This time my kids were extremely loud and not cooperating too much while I was trying to get them ready for bed. I felt that I was very close to losing it, and out of desperation I took a deep breath and loudly announced that my head hurt badly from all the screaming, and it could so happen that I might end up yelling pretty soon, and I really wish I didn’t have to. Then my son got quiet, looked into my eyes very seriously, told me he was sorry, and then gave me a kiss. And I melted right there. And everything went much smoother after that.

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