Trust yourself more.
We live in a world where everyone knows everything, and they can’t wait to give you their advice. And even when you try to do your own research, there are always very many different opinions on the same subject. So, what can you do as a parent to make sure you chose the best for your child based on what you have been told, or learned through your research?
When in doubt, always trust your HEART. Yes, everyone will try to give you their two cents, and share stories about their own children and what “worked” for them, or provide you with pages of latest “research” they really believe in. Still, always trust your heart first, and everyone else later. When your baby cries and needs to be held, or fed, or hugged and kissed, and you’ve been told that “giving in to your infant’s emotional manipulation” will spoil her, still listen to your HEART.
When doctors suggest performing questionable painful procedures on your baby for no good reason, i.e. circumcision, still listen to your HEART.
When your child can’t fall asleep at night and cries for you, and you’ve been told that you should be sleep-training him for his own “good”, still listen to your HEART.
When your toddler is having a tantrum and is drowning in tears, and can’t really explain what is happening in his little universe due to his limited vocabulary, and you’ve been told that punishing and sending him away to be totally alone to “think” about his behavior will “teach” him a lesson, still listen to your HEART.
When something comes up in life and your children are having a hard time and act out, and you’ve been told they are only doing it to get you mad, still listen to your HEART. Does your heart really believe that?
Chances are your heart tells you to run to your baby and hug, and kiss, and sing to her, and rock her until she is calm and happy. Your heart tells you to keep your baby perfect and heathy without any cosmetic procedures that will harm your child. Your heart tells you to never betray your child’s trust by leaving him all alone in the dark screaming for you to come back. Your heart tells you to guide your children gently with love and respect they deserve, and to never believe anyone telling you that your kids are out to get you. Because you love your children, you know they need you in this world to be there for them, to hold them and support them, to protect them from harm. They need you to trust yourself and your HEART more. Because your heart will know exactly what your kids need. And don’t you let anyone tell you otherwise.