Quote (Patty Wipfler)

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“Behave” is a scary word when applied to children. It implies forcing them to comply with societal norms created by adults and for adults. It is impossible to try to squeeze an independent and growing free spirit into a certain shape it’s not a good fit for, and expect to have a perfectly happy child as a result. Of course children will act out, and have tantrums, and talk back, and scream, and cry in this case. So, why not change societal expectations towards children by decreasing them to ZERO? Why not let kids be kids and, most likely, end up with happy children and less stressed parents as a result? Childhood is meant to be enjoyed and not merely survived. Maybe then we might end up with happier adults who see no problem with letting children be children.

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5 thoughts on “Quote (Patty Wipfler)

  1. I think the question is where you draw the line between “letting kids be kids” and expecting them to behave.
    Kids should be allowed to be kids – but they also need rules, for their own sakes, to teach them how to act when they are grown up.
    I think the question is which rules, whether they are age-appropriate expectations, and how they are communicated.

    • You should start following my FB page, seriously. All these questions are often raised by others, and there are always very good responses from people who are actually professional child educators, and not just moms like me. 🙂
      But yes, everyone assumes somehow that free childhood means childhood with no education. You lead by example, really. I don’t particularly teach my kids to be polite, respectful, etc. They are already all those things because they witness it at home, and we treat them with the same respect we would treat any adult. If that makes sense. So they watch us, and they repeat what they see. It is really that simple. And they can still run around and scream like crazy. And they know they have to keep it down when mommy is having a headache from all the noise. Haha.

      • I don’t have Facebook. Can you believe it?

        I think kids need gentle instruction, in addition to example, though.

        Yes, that makes sense. We try to do that, too, even though everyone seems to think we’re crazy.
        I’m glad your kids are respectful. 🙂 It certainly makes life easier!

      • Wow, you are so lucky that you’re not on Facebook. I am sure it is an addiction for many people. Sometimes I want to deactivate my account too, but then I just take a break from the virtual world. It helps. 🙂

      • I guess I am lucky. Sometimes I feel the lack, because everyone else does have Facebook. But usually, it’s pretty good.
        If you want to deactivate your account – take courage and go for it!

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