I appreciate good grammar and punctuation. I make mistakes myself but I am trying to learn whenever I can, and I hope I am slowly improving. Captain Grammar Pants is my latest addiction, and I love their creative style of educating the public while, at the same time, keeping it light and easy to understand. And who can refuse a bit of humor here and there? I know I can’t.
In their own words:
Correcting bad grammar, punctuation, spelling, and capitalization, while keeping the grammar guardians of the world informed in a lighthearted manner, one day at a time!
Decades as a college professor, thousands of student papers read, cried, laughed and sighed over, edited, and handed back covered in red (or green) ink.”
I think we all established that tickling should be done very carefully, and should be stopped as soon as a child either asks for it to stop or shows that it is not pleasant anymore.
I am sure loving and respectful parents will know exactly when not to cross the line. But how about non-parents who try to tickle your children? What do you do and how should you respond?
This is a VERY important article for all parents to read at least once in their life. You can never know enough to prevent abuse until you learn how it happens and what signs to look for: http://www.renegadepopo.com/how-pedophiles-groom.php
“How Pedophiles Seduce Children:
Tickling is such a touchy subject, I know some will disagree but hopefully this will help some of you to look at it from a different angle. All I know is that I personally hate tickling, I have bad memories about it from my childhood, I can’t stand anyone even hinting at trying to tickle me. Do I want my kids to have the same memories in the future? Definitely not, so we don’t abuse tickling in our house and only do it for a short while if kids ask for it. There are other wonderful alternatives to family bonding like this great article from HandinHand Parenting explains. Continue reading
True. That is why I used Baby Led Weaning with my second child.
I really used to think that. Silly me. 😉
P.S. This is not meant to scare moms with one child only who are thinking of having more. In reality a lot of things are actually easier when you have two. You know better by then, you don’t make the same mistakes, your hands don’t shake when you need to change that first diaper, etc. You know what to do. You just have to do it twice most of the time. 🙂
I found Paa.la through her wonderful graphics with beautiful photos and even greater messages in them. She is such an inspiration to those trying to normalize breastfeeding that I just had to make her a fence. I always admire individuals who get involved with the cause close to their heart and keep educating tirelessly.
Also on Facebook.
In her own words:
“Raise your hand if you love mothering, breastfeeding, and birth! I post my rambles here about natural parenting and full-term breastfeeding.
My name is actually Paala. I am a stay-at-home mother of two daughters under four. If you ask me what type of parent I am or what parenting style I might label myself with, I would just say I do what works for me and my family.”
Let’s try to figure out why all the confusion about spanking versus non-spanking in relation to discipline. Just because people spank and hit children doesn’t mean they are disciplining them. Most of the time they don’t know any other methods, they have been spanked themselves, and they feel like hitting their children somehow makes them a responsible parent who teaches their kids important lessons in life. NO, this is not discipline! Just like it is not when someone chooses to let their children get away with everything without teaching them any lessons at all. NO, that is not discipline either, no matter how peaceful this approach may seem. Discipline should come from reasoning, cause and effect explanations, positive reinforcements, and NEVER from physical pain and fear. Please, consider researching further.
Here is the article I partially took the quote for the graphic from and some preview of what to expect: http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=122&id=1763
“What is discipline?
As parents we discipline our children when they are able to understand what we want to teach them, so that they will learn how to discipline themselves.
Discipline is about understanding the rules (of home, school and community) and understanding what happens when the rules are broken (consequences). It’s about learning to be responsible.
Discipline should be positive and used to encourage good behaviour, as well as to stop behaviour that you don’t want your child to be doing.
By choosing positive, peaceful, and respectful parenting I am making an investment in the future generations of my family. I want my kids to remember me for the things they are thankful for. I don’t want them to look back and remember me for the things that scarred them for life and required years to forgive me for. I don’t want my grand kids to pay for the mistakes I made when their parents won’t know any better than abuse and disrespect.
I choose love, respect and peace. For my children. For my grandchildren. For generations to come.
What legacy are you leaving behind?
I will repeat again. NO ONE. There are more respectful and more effective methods known to us nowadays. Spend some time doing your research of positive parenting and gentle discipline, and don’t repeat your parents’ mistakes. They didn’t know better then. We do now.
As a child I was forced to finish everything on my plate, to eat the foods I hated, and I often left the table with tears in my eyes. Now that I am an adult I don’t like to eat in general. I like certain foods but I probably still eat less than I should. I just don’t like to eat, period.
My daughter is a very picky eater (in my understanding) but there’s no pressure from me. As long as we offer healthy choices she is free to finish her dinner or leave the table just after a few spoonfuls. Sometimes she doesn’t eat anything at all and that is also ok. Sometimes she eats a lot in the morning and not much in the evening, and that is fine with me. Sometimes all she wants is only apples, or only bananas, or only frozen peas, or just whole wheat bread and I don’t mind. I used to worry like crazy but then I also noticed that she is extremely active and has no health issues. I decided to let her decide. I feel less stressed this way and she is also happy with our agreement. Continue reading