Quote (Devon)

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My wise friend told me this yesterday and I think I am in love with this thought. Always be open to learning something from others. You may disagree with them on some things, but you might find that there is much more to them, when you don’t immediately reject them based on your initial reaction. Every one of us has something to offer to the world. And every one of us deserves to be heard.

Let kids have feelings without distractions

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Another eye-opening article from Janet Lansbury – Elevating Childcare™. I was just learning all these things when I read it first and it made a lot of sense. I know we all feel tempted to distract a child when he is upset, but do we really have to? What are we trying to reach by keeping the child from experiencing his own feelings fully and learning from them? Think about it.

“I may be overly sensitive, but it even bothers me when I see an adult smiling at a crying, upset or sad child. Why do we want to manipulate young children’s moods and feelings?” -Magda Gerber
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Happy Holidays

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Enjoy the holidays!
Aim for the Moon in 2013 and you will definitely land among the stars. The sky is the limit to what you can become to yourself, your family and your children when you try to become a little bit better, a little bit kinder, and a little bit more educated every day. After all, everyone deserves the best in this life. And the best comes with new discoveries and desire to change for the better, and not to be stuck in the same old (possibly wrong) routine, same old beliefs and same old 2012.
All the best to you and your loved ones!

P.S. Hey, look, I even got snow for this fence. Our first snow today, exciting even if for just an hour.

No forced apologies, please

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This piece left a very deep impression on me when I read it first over a year ago. I agree completely and it hurts me when I see parents yelling at their kids to apologize. For one, if I am the person kids are forced to apologize to, I don’t need their “I’m sorry” mumbled under a threat. I feel bad for them as it is that they did something wrong and instead of being explained what that was, they are confused even further by being forced to do something they do not feel like doing, obviously, because they have no idea what even happened. I never force my daughter to apologize. I get down to her level, explain in simple words what happened, why the other child is upset, and what my daughter did that caused it. Then I apologize to that child to show that we know we did something wrong and one of us feels bad about it. Other signs that my child is already sorry is when she starts crying (she feels bad about the whole situation), or she tries to hug that other kid (she feels their pain), or offers her own toys to them (trying to make them feel better). All these gestures are even better than saying a fake “sorry”. They mean that my kid understood the situation, drew some conclusions and took some actions that, in her own world, meant she tried to fix it. And when she is old enough to verbally express her apology, she will be able to do it. Not because she is forced to, but because she knows how to and why.

Whole article by Janet found here.

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